I recently got in and out of a relationship with a man, who ironically, was not truthful about who he was, but do you know what he did for me in that short relationship? I was reminded of the woman I am that I have denied myself of for many years. I rediscovered my love for many aspects of theater, remembered how badly I missed the stage, I was reminded of music I used to love to listen to, of how I used to get inspired to write in many forms & the thrill of stopping everything I was doing just to get my idea down. For 6 years I didn’t do any of those things. I don’t remember changing who I was, it seemed to be a slow & gradual change.
People say you can’t change a person, I don’t believe that to be true, because I changed who I was. I think the phrase should be you SHOULDN’T change who you are for someone or you SHOULDN’T expect someone to change for you. But change in a person certainly can happen when you’re in love. Love makes us do crazy things for others, love often blinds us, and before we know it, nothing is the same anymore. Does this happen for all people? No, some people never change, which is why you shouldn’t try to change anyone, but some people do. Sometimes it’s for the better, sometimes for the worse, sometimes it’s just for the different.
So what am I doing moving forward? I’m going to find a healthy balance between who I was and who I am becoming. I will find the person I want to be & find someone to love me for who I am. I will also be okay if I begin to change even more, as long as I don’t lose who I am, my morals or my beliefs. Some things should never change about who you are, but some things, as we grow, will change, and that’s okay! You just have to be okay with who you are changing into, and most importantly, love yourself through it all.